I've said it before, and I'll say it again – human beings are not hard wired for monogamy. Sure, we were probably able to manage it 200 years ago, when our life expectancies were lower and manual labor meant we were working all the time. After all, after 10 hours in the fields who has time to cheat? And if your life expectancy is in the 40s and you are constantly dealing with children, you may be able to distract yourself.

But, these days most of us work in office environments surrounded by the opposite sex, we have more free time, and we are living longer lives. This gives us more chances to play with others and more time to become frustrated with a single partner. That's why so many people, men and women, young and old, eventually realize they need a new sexual outlet.

On the other hand, just because our bodies and souls are programmed to make us need to be unfaithful doesn't mean we have to lie to our partner or live our lives as a bachelor or bachelorette forever.

In earlier articles I've talked about many alternatives to cheating and lying about it. Today, I want to talk about the easiest and one of the most honest ways to have extracurricular fun – threesomes.

Threesomes are not as rare as you think, and they give you the chance to be with another partner while your partner shares your experience. Many people of both genders fantasize about threesomes; but unfortunately, most don't ever let them become reality. Women are worried their husband will be freaked out when it comes to the idea of threesomes. With men, it's because they don't know how to properly ask their wives for a threesome.

In that vein, I'd like to give some common sense threesome advice – because honestly, if you are thinking about a threesome, odds are your partner is, too!

If you are a guy, ask for a threesome the right way. Don't immediately say you want to bring another girl into your bed. That is threatening to a woman's ego and can make her jealous.

Instead, tell her you are thinking about a threesome to spice up your love life and enhance her pleasure. Tell her you think your first threesome should be with another guy. Yes, I know you may not really want another guy around while you are having sex; but trust me, she'll be much more interested in having two men than in sharing you with another woman.

And, most importantly of all – tell her you want her to pick the guy. This will make her feel empowered!

Once you've had a successful threesome or two with another guy, then you can talk about bringing in another girl. She'll be much more comfortable with the idea now – and more likely to agree since she's already had her fun!

If you are a girl, play to your man's weakness. Nearly all men fantasize about watching lesbian sex. So, to get the game going, talk about lesbian experimentation you had in college (whether or not this is true) and ask him if he'd like to see you try again.

You may not really want to flick the clit fantastic, but it's really a small price to pay because it will give you the chance to suggest another guy the next time around. But, remember that many guys are very homophobic, so stress to him that you don't expect him to do anything with the guy. And, tell him he'll get extra blowjobs for a week before and after the sexperience!

Both of these methods should work wonders in making a threesome experience possible. That said, I’m a curious girl and I'm sure many of you have had your own threesome experiences.

I'd love it if you'd comment about them and let Cheating Ways know exactly how you got the ball rolling!

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